All of us get angry. Some of us get angry very often. Some are able to control anger. Some of us express our anger freely, whereas some suppress it.

Why do we get angry?

Is there any way to control the anger?

How is it possible to do that?

We get angry when we are stopped doing something. Or when we don’t get our way. We get angry when our desires are not fulfilled, or when people don’t agree with our viewpoint. Many times we get angry when we find our views do not a line with others. Those people who have not managed to understand their emotions fully will also become angry when feeling anxious or scared. For some people, they may be in a constant state of anger as we are living in very uncertain times.

We are all feeling stress and pressure in new ways. Trying to parent, educate children, work and run a home and for some complete all of these tasks at once. It’s no wonder that emotions are running hard. We all react very differently to the same situation that we find ourselves in.

Can we use any techniques to control anger?

Do you react immediately, or think about what went wrong before reacting? Those who react spontaneously, get angry fast. Those who think about it before reacting are able to understand and control their emotions better. Maybe now is the time to try and count up to ten before reacting? After all, there is no rush, you’re not going anywhere.

Understanding other’s viewpoints help in many situations. As we have our viewpoint, so do others. Why try to enforce our thoughts on them? Why not at least try and understand what they think and why? This is a big game-changer with children, once we realise that they have the same emotions as us it is easier to see why they are frustrated.  If your child, boss or partner is angry with you, you need not react immediately. Give some time and think about all the possible reasons and you may find the answer to the anger. If in the end you realise that the anger was totally unjustified, you can choose to forgive and not react angrily.

Emotions such as anger can be controlled.

It needs reflection.

It needs practice to exercise restraint.

By winning over your anger you will become a better person, recognise how you are feeling, acknowledge how you feel and create a plan in your mind to manage that emotion. Eventually, you will have full control of your anger.